They say that there’s no perfect way to parenting. I believe that parenting is a continuing course which no one can ever graduate.
When I was introduced to Mrs. Funnybones – the book, I was told that it’s a rather simple read yet has a lot that resonates with every Indian woman/mother. I read this book on supposed vacation at my parents’ place, which actually turned out to be just a change of location because I was still running around the entire house trying to keep track of what my kids were up to. Yet this vacation and alone time with my kids is turning out to be significant for me because I am occupied the entire day just looking after them. I have no distractions in terms of my other roles as a wife, a daughter-in-law, an employee working from home etc.
Well, I put both my angels to bed early last night so that I could spare some time to read this interesting take of a star kid, a star wife and hopefully a star mother, on general issues that are both prevalent and relevant. An enchanting read, I turned the last page within 3 hours of opening the first one. From friends and other reviews on the internet, the book seems to be a hilarious and satirist take on life situations that every person has already experienced in the past or is likely to find themselves in the future. To me parts of this book came across as deep seated and here I present the 11 statements made by Mrs. Funnybones which were most compelling and thought provoking. These are not in any order of preference and do not mean to demean the beliefs of any other individual. This list is just a reflection of what has lingered on in my conscience and are self explanatory. Incase of any further explanations and discussions please feel free to post your views –
We grow up listening to words like ‘respect’, ‘obedience’ and ‘tradition’. Can we not add the words ‘communication’, ‘unconditional love’ and ‘support’ to this list.
Me: I take a vow that I will talk about these things with my kids…
They won’t arrest scores of men who publicly unbutton, unzip, oull out their dangly bits and proceed to urinate on a wall outside the police station, but …..
Me: To figure this one you will have to read the book
Our little satellite reached Mars because it was called MOM. If it was called DAD, it would still be circling around the Earth, lost, but not willing to ask for directions …
Me: Mrs. Funnybones at her sarcastic best!
Love in any relationship, family or an intimate friendship, is only about putting the other person’s needs ahead of your own, and that, my friend, is just as simple and as complex as you make it …
Me: And that my friends as just what love is
…most of us will follow traditions and rituals as long as they do not demean or harm us, or cause us to do the same to another, while making elders happy. We simply do it rather than prove a point as to how liberated and independent we truly our…
Me: That’s our generation defined in the least number of words
…. because children are always learning from us. They don’t pay attention to most of the stuff we say, but are always watching what we do. Do I really want him to see that when life gets even remotely challenging, one must complain, crib and quit? …
Me: Fear of every parent across the globe summed up in one statement
If God disapproves of this fluid, then He should disapprove of all body fluids. So when pundits are doing yagnas and sweating copiously in front the holy fire, shouldn’t they also occasionally get burnt to a crisp by the divine cosmic forces? …
Me: No comments on this one.. Why? Refer to No. 5
One always looks at this age-old mother-in-law-daughter-in-law battle from the daughter-in-law’s point of view, but I realize it must not be easy to be easy to be mummyji as well…
Me: I nod! I nod! Because one day I will be a mummyji too!
…..not one person has anyone accompanying them to the hospital. In India this never happens – there is always someone to take you to the hospital. Even if your children live far away, there will be cousins, buas, chachis, even neighbors; someone always steps in…
Me: Well! I strongly agree to this one. As this is the only solace I have staying 2000kms away from my parents
…. let go. There is always another job, another woman, another best friend. Each day that you persist in a situation where you are miserable is a day wasted on the path that would lead you to happiness …
Me: The best advice that I could ever give to my kids
….trying and holding on are complicated and challenging, but the most difficult thing in life is to love fiercely and then let go…
Me: Another advice on ‘letting go’ that beats every other advice, especially when it is meant for all the parents who love their kids beyond everything and have to let them be on their own once they grow up
Note: Due credits for the above excerpts from Mrs. Funnybones – the book by Twinkle Khanna. Thanks for this light hearted yet heavy on opinions book without being too preachy.