A Second Chance At Motherhood – Things I Am Doing Differently

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Mostly every mother has this clear picture in her mind about how she wants to bring up her children. Yet, in the rush of events of becoming a first-time mom, a lot remains fogged due to lack of experience.
For me, the birth of my first child was a milestone I managed to meet before I turned 30. Actually, I was not quite ready for a child, yet we as a couple decided to have one because I also firmly believed that if I grew any older, it would be impossible for me to have the patience to raise any kids.

A lot went haywire and in retrospect, I feel that my little Nik and dear husband were at the receiving end most of the times. I was like, if I am going to have a kid, I rather raise him to be that perfect kid who every mother would envy. (I am laughing at my naivety of having such a goal.)

It was really presumptuous of me to think that kids are a report card of a mother’s performance. (I know for sure that some mothers still think so, but thankfully I have come a long way since.) Below are a few things which I did differently the second time around –

Routine setting & potty training

My parents really got to my nerves to start early potty training for my little one. And in hindsight, I think I did a decent job of training him to near flawlessness while he was still only 9 months. But then one fine day, he forgot everything. That was when my doctor told me that biologically until the kids turn two you can never be sure. So yes this time around I am taking it easy.

Ensure cleanliness but don’t be paranoid

My doc says that a little exposure to dirt is a medium for antibodies to get into the kids’ bodies and strengthen their immunity. Over sanitization actually is a reason for low immunity in the current generation of kids. But know that dirt and dust are different from filth.

Less of a disciplinarian

Frankly, my sister was the last kid I had dealt with until I became a mother myself. So the idea of disciplining my kid was a matter of paramount importance for me. I confess now I was really stupid. My focus should only have been to instil positive habits.

Tad more possessive

As mentioned above, I was that radical mom who thought that I need not be like those regular moms who can’t stop doting upon their bubs. I profoundly apologise to all the doting mothers of this world. I I have learnt my lesson and now stand as the flag bearer of those extremely possessive doting mothers who see cuteness in everything their kids do.

So yes, my mantra to all the new moms out there would be
Worry less, love more! Fret less, chill more!

This post is linked to #MondayMommyMoments by Amrita and Deepa


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Rohan Sonalkar July 6, 2017 at 6:03 pm

Thankfully, my little monster got potty trained very easily. For my wife and me, our only issue about her is intake of food and studies. She’s almost five now, I know i shouldn’t be putting her under pressure, but she’s just too lazy for A,B,C.

Mommy Tincture July 8, 2017 at 12:22 pm

Potty Training done easily is like winning a big battle. But I guess proper eating by kids is something that remains unconquered by so many parents.
Thanks for reading

Dipika July 6, 2017 at 7:35 pm

Such an adorable picture, I love the post too 😉
Yes when we look back today, it’s visible if things on planning and managing would have done little differently it would have been much better for us. Loved it.

Mommy Tincture July 8, 2017 at 12:23 pm

As first time parents we believe we can micro plan everything and control for parameters of our child’s life. Wisdom only falls upon us later when we realise there was no reason to sweat so much. Life can be easy with a kid too.
Thanks for reading

Deepa July 9, 2017 at 12:25 pm

Great post Anupriya. Sadly we realise all these things later but The important thing is ITS OK. 🙂
.I enjoyed reading it. Thanks for linking up with #MMM

Amrita Basu (Misra) July 9, 2017 at 3:05 pm

I loved how you summed up.We do dote on the little ones.Children are gifts to us from God How we raise them is our gift to the world.Thank you for writing with us for #MondayMommyMoments


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