As a mother, I often feel that a lot of what I say, do or react to my children is impacted by my state of mind, my emotions and also my surroundings. Have you ever felt that the optimism or pessimism in your surroundings gets on to you and you, in turn, behave in a similar fashion?
As parents, we know that children’s actions are not motivated by wrong intentions. They are just instinctive. They are either naïve and don’t understand the implications of their words or actions; or they have no knowledge of the territory they are traversing into. In any case, if you are a parent who reacts too easily or worries too much, I am sure you feel the need for a magical wand to help you keep calm. While there are numerous motivators to Positive Parenting, I feel it is all in the mind. But taming the mind to stay positive is in itself a difficult task. Going the spiritual way is what has helped me a lot in my endeavor to Positive Parenting.
What is Meditation?
The Medical dictionary defines Meditation as a practice of concentrated focus upon a sound, object, visualization, the breath, movement, or attention itself in order to increase awareness of the present moment, reduce stress, promote relaxation, and enhance personal and spiritual growth.
How Does Meditation help in Positive Parenting
Reduces Stress & Anxiety
Only if you are at peace inside will you be able to take account of any situation in its entirety. You need peace of mind to understand the fears and anxieties of your child and take a constructive corrective approach towards their problems. Meditation helps calm your nervous system and one of the obvious after effects is reduced stress and anxiety.
Re-instatement of Optimism
Meditation and a spiritual bend of mind increase ones’ ability to accept what exists around us. Only if you are devoid of judgment, you will be able to curb the wish to change things by force and be more compassionate towards the existing circumstances. This will help you connect better with your child. Also, a happy parent is likely to transfuse the happy state of mind to their kid as well.
Once you have won over stress and anxiety and are filled with positive thoughts, your zeal to do more and get more done also spikes up. As a parent, you need excessive energy to keep up with your kids’ physical needs. Be it running around a toddler all over the house or accompanying your older child to various activities and learning avenues. A meditative downtime does a good job of relaxing your body and rejuvenating it.
Revival of Energy other than Physical Energy
To accomplish any task you need energy at primarily three levels – physical, emotional and mental. You may be able to revive yourself physically through a short nap but meditation helps you revive your energy at emotional and mental level. As a result, you are less likely to lose your calm as a parent and understand your kids’ emotional and mental state with more compassion.
Makes You More Alert and Aware
Meditation helps clear out the clutter of emotions and thoughts present in your body and aura. As a result, you tend to become aware of happenings around you. Also with a clear sub-conscious mind, your intuition seems to get better by the day. This makes you alert towards slightest of the changes in your child’s lifestyle, mannerism, and actions. Early detection of such changes may help deal with any root causes of trouble to your kid.
Spiritualism takes you closer to a concept called ‘Detached Parenting’ where you realize that you are to perform your responsibilities as a parent yet you may not be able to achieve everything you set out to initially. Your child has his own karma or destiny to fight with and live by. When you begin to look at your kids as individuals with a separate identity, you realize that you can only influence them to a certain extent. This realization helps you move towards constructive parenting away from obsessed parenting.
If you go through the points above again, you may realize that they all are inter-connected. Similarly if you acquire one benefit of meditation you are likely to win over all the other benefits. There are many methods of meditation which are unique in their style and process. But most of them lead to similar benefits.
What is your take on Meditation and Spirituality? If you do believe in meditation, what method do you use?
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