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Positive Parenting with Meditation (the spiritual route to being positive)

posted by Mommy Tincture September 16, 2017 12 Comments
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As a mother, I often feel that a lot of what I say, do or react to my children is impacted by my state of mind, my emotions and also my surroundings.  Have you ever felt that the optimism or pessimism in your surroundings gets on to you and you, in turn, behave in a similar fashion?

As parents, we know that children’s actions are not motivated by wrong intentions. They are just instinctive. They are either naïve and don’t understand the implications of their words or actions; or they have no knowledge of the territory they are traversing into. In any case, if you are a parent who reacts too easily or worries too much, I am sure you feel the need for a magical wand to help you keep calm. While there are numerous motivators to Positive Parenting, I feel it is all in the mind. But taming the mind to stay positive is in itself a difficult task. Going the spiritual way is what has helped me a lot in my endeavor to Positive Parenting.

What is Meditation?

The Medical dictionary defines Meditation as a practice of concentrated focus upon a sound, object, visualization, the breath, movement, or attention itself in order to increase awareness of the present moment, reduce stress, promote relaxation, and enhance personal and spiritual growth.

How Does Meditation help in Positive Parenting

Reduces Stress & Anxiety

Only if you are at peace inside will you be able to take account of any situation in its entirety. You need peace of mind to understand the fears and anxieties of your child and take a constructive corrective approach towards their problems. Meditation helps calm your nervous system and one of the obvious after effects is reduced stress and anxiety.

Re-instatement of Optimism

Meditation and a spiritual bend of mind increase ones’ ability to accept what exists around us. Only if you are devoid of judgment, you will be able to curb the wish to change things by force and be more compassionate towards the existing circumstances. This will help you connect better with your child. Also, a happy parent is likely to transfuse the happy state of mind to their kid as well.

Physical Effectiveness

Once you have won over stress and anxiety and are filled with positive thoughts, your zeal to do more and get more done also spikes up. As a parent, you need excessive energy to keep up with your kids’ physical needs. Be it running around a toddler all over the house or accompanying your older child to various activities and learning avenues.  A meditative downtime does a good job of relaxing your body and rejuvenating it.

Revival of Energy other than Physical Energy

To accomplish any task you need energy at primarily three levels – physical, emotional and mental. You may be able to revive yourself physically through a short nap but meditation helps you revive your energy at emotional and mental level.  As a result, you are less likely to lose your calm as a parent and understand your kids’ emotional and mental state with more compassion.

Makes You More Alert and Aware

Meditation helps clear out the clutter of emotions and thoughts present in your body and aura. As a result, you tend to become aware of happenings around you.  Also with a clear sub-conscious mind, your intuition seems to get better by the day. This makes you alert towards slightest of the changes in your child’s lifestyle, mannerism, and actions. Early detection of such changes may help deal with any root causes of trouble to your kid.

Gives Perspective

Spiritualism takes you closer to a concept called ‘Detached Parenting’ where you realize that you are to perform your responsibilities as a parent yet you may not be able to achieve everything you set out to initially. Your child has his own karma or destiny to fight with and live by. When you begin to look at your kids as individuals with a separate identity, you realize that you can only influence them to a certain extent. This realization helps you move towards constructive parenting away from obsessed parenting.

If you go through the points above again, you may realize that they all are inter-connected. Similarly if you acquire one benefit of meditation you are likely to win over all the other benefits. There are many methods of meditation which are unique in their style and process. But most of them lead to similar benefits.

What is your take on Meditation and Spirituality? If you do believe in meditation, what method do you use?

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12 Comments

Cherralle September 17, 2017 at 6:24 am

Lovely article. I like how it can give perspective on parenting. The fact that kids have their own individuality and we cannot control their destiny

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keerthi vydyula September 17, 2017 at 11:34 am

First of all it makes me happy to see many talking about meditation. I try to practice meditation if not daily at least 3-4 days a week. The effect it has on me is incredible. Only when one tries to practice it, can see the improvement it shows. Thank you for addressing it through this amazing post!

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Mommy Tincture September 17, 2017 at 4:02 pm

I have also started reaping the benfits of Meditation very recently. The effect was so powerful that I could help but write this post.

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Bellybytes September 17, 2017 at 4:06 pm

YOu must be one ZEN MOM . I wish I had read this article as a young mom though it will help me as a young grandmom. Perhaps it will be more useful now since grandmas have less patience and less energy to keep up with questions and strange requests….

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Mommy Tincture September 17, 2017 at 4:16 pm

No! I am a mom with very low patience. But yes I am making progress with the help of meditation. About the grandmoms, I must tell you that for grandchildren you will have all the patience in the world. Its only our own children who get under your skin ;P)

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Tina Basu September 17, 2017 at 8:00 pm

Ohh how I wish I could seriously mediate for a few hours and take a break from the mom duties for few hours a day

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Mommy Tincture September 17, 2017 at 8:03 pm

May be not for a few hours but 30-45 mins is manageable if you really wish to do it. About break from Mom duties, i guess that not possible now or ever.

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Ashwini Dodani September 18, 2017 at 12:26 pm

This is an amazing piece. Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. For now, I can share this post with my mother even when she knows and meditates, just because it will reassure her 🙂

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Shamik September 18, 2017 at 5:00 pm

Thank you for sharing your experience so well with elaboration. Meditation and yoga helps in every aspect of our life. Though I don’t any experience about parenting I liked reading the post. Am sure this post will add value to the parents in terms of better parenting.

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Akshata September 18, 2017 at 10:46 pm

I am not into meditation at all, rather I talk to myself whenever I am stressed.but it’s been great reading about the immense benefits of meditating

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Shalini September 19, 2017 at 10:08 am

I’m not into meditation at all. I understand that I should practice. Thanks for your insights.

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Disha September 22, 2017 at 5:20 pm

I dont medidate & now your post is making me rethink ny decision. Thanks for sharing the benifits. 🙂

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