The latest bollywood release ‘Chef’ starring Saif Ali Khan is the story of a man’s love for food and his son. Roshan K the protagonist of the story is a chef in New York who having arose from the ‘Gullies’ of Chandni Chowk in New Delhi India and achieved the summit of success as a Chef is on a path downhill in his professional as well as personal life. This man in his pursuit of success and fame gets into a vicious circle and drifts apart from his life partner. He claims to love his son most in the world even when he feels tied down by the burdens of his profession, financial obligations etc and not able to spare enough time for him.
OK! I do not wish to turn this post into a movie review or a spoiler post. Instead this post is meant to look at some loud and subtle messages that the movie sends out through its course. I feel these messages are most relevant to the current generation of parents to teenagers or younger kids. Especially for the parents who are in a constant tug of war to strike a balance between their professional and personal lives. While many of them pursue their professional ambitions they run a high risk of losing out on the little joys of parenting and life in general. So here’s the food for thought that I carried out of the movie hall.
Why does a once 25 year old fierce and ready-to-take-on-the-world young struggler, turn into a complacent and ever-complaining-the-system 40 year old?
What is it that makes moving out of one’s comfort zone such a difficult task?
What is the sure shot recipe for Failure? Is it just about lack of Belief in self or is it absence of Perseverance?
In providing our kids all that is necessary to make them happy, do we only fulfill our duty as parents? Or is it that at times this is the best favor we could do unto ourselves?
What does offering help mean? Does it come at the cost of wiping off memories of past and keeping aside one’s ego?
The above trivia if internalized and given some thought is strong enough to help one map a root-cause analysis of the reason for being unhappy in life. And more often than not, one will figure that the solutions to our problems lie within. Or on the contrary, one may just realize that we’ve been carrying a wrong problem all this time and our salvation (or rather happiness) lies in adorning a different quest altogether.
Rarely does one come across such simple manifestation of relationships that are seemingly complex yet the people involved rise above norms and accepted protocol to make the best of what life throws at them. Even at its slow pace, this beautiful account of failing relationships and genuine efforts to restore them does not bore you. Rather it acts as a catalyst to help you introspect and analyse what’s wrong in your own life and what is it that you need to do to put it back on track.