‘When you really want something, the universe conspires to bring it to you’ –Paulo Coehelo, Alchemist
‘Absolutely everything you experience in your life is a result of what you have given in your thoughts and feelings, whether you realize you have given them or not.’ – Rhonda Byrne, ‘Secret’
Both the statements above make you believe that ‘Energy follows Thought’. And if that is the case, it is only and only in your hands to improve the deteriorating or stagnant condition of your relationships. ‘Mindfulness’, a simple practice of training your mind to think in a particular manner and consciously make an effort to always think positive is called ‘Affirmations’.
The founding premise of the ‘Affirmations’ technique is to train one’s mind to think in a specific way. As per the practitioners of mindfulness and mental wellness, affirmations are the most powerful tool that every individual possesses with or without knowledge, which has the capability to bring drastic changes in quality of life.
Below I share three strong and time tested affirmations that one may use in various situations. I have internalized all three practices during the last 6 months and have found immense change in the way I look at my relationships.
HOW AFFIRMATIONS HAVE IMPACTED MY RELATIOSHIPS
I now firmly believe that the key to my happiness lies in bringing mental and emotional to my inner self. If I remain stuck in my past, I cannot move ahead in my life. I wished to break free from my past prejudices, fears and mental blocks that my past life experiences with people had formed in my conscience. I was seeking to let go off these very prejudices, fears, feeling of anger and discontentment, of betrayal by people who I have encountered in various phases of my life.
I realized that by letting go, not only was I alleviating the burden of accusation from those who I believed had wronged me, but also I was myself breaking free from the limiting thoughts and emotions that occupied a lot of mental space.
By following the below mentioned affirmations, my inner self has found a haven where –
- I do not get upset when my expectations from others are not met.
- My ability to handle conflict situations has improved.
- I am mindful when negative thoughts tend to envelop my mind and break the trails of negative thoughts immediately.
- My tendency to hold on to prejudices has dissolved drastically. I feel the need to ‘not hold on’ and move ahead in life.
- I have found the strength to break free of negative relationships that were binding and get on with life without give them much of a thought.
- Both my heart and mind feel clear of any kind of noise and I am able to focus on the positive aspects of my life.
The first and foremost step to edge out differences in relationships is to be tolerant towards mistakes made by others and develop the capability to forgive them. You may not go back to being friends with them, but you must overcome the hurt that you experience by meeting them, thinking about them or at their mention by someone else. Once you have done it, you have cleared your heart of negative emotions and made space for positivity to flow in.
Below are the affirmations that one may practice to ‘Forgive’ others.
- Think of one person who you wish to forgive
- Close your eyes and imagine the person in front of you
- Speak these words aloud as if you are speaking to that very person one-to-one
I RESPECT THE SOUL IN YOU
WE ARE ALL CHILDREN OF GOD, AND WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES
WE ARE ALL EVOLVING
I FORGIVE YOU
LET GOD’S BLESSINGS BE WITH YOU AND WITH ME
NOW GO IN PEACE
4. Now imagine the face of the person blur away
When you decide to forgive a particular person, practice the above mentioned affirmation 7 times a day for 7 days continuously. If the relationship with the said person is too bitter, you may continue this affirmation for the same person for even a month before moving on to the next person.
Forgiving Thy Self
When I was introduced to the idea of forgiving, my first reaction was, ‘Who am I to judge another person for being right or wrong. It could be that the person is right from their perspective and it is me who has taken offence, because of my circumstances or mental set-up.’
At that point my wellness coach, advised me that if I have such prejudice against myself, that I think that I am on the wrong, then it is best that I stat with forgiving myself.
She was of the view that whenever people feel remorse for their own actions and are consumed by guilt for something that they have done, they should forgive themselves.
On further introspection, I realized that the ones that we wish to forgive are also the ones from whom we seek forgiveness. So yes, forgiving thyself is the first step.
PRACTICING THE VIRTUE OF LOVING KINDNESS
If you want harmony in your relationships, you must possess love and harmony in your thoughts, words as well as actions. It is easy to develop non-violence in our words and actions, but often struggle with violence in thoughts.
Anger, hatred, jealously etc. are some of the emotions we feel mentally when we are not happy with the people around us. What we don’t realize is that we are creating a vicious circle for us by sowing the seeds of negativity in our emotional world will invite the same negativity in the physical world.
THANK YOU FOR BLESSING ME WITH LOVING KINDNESS,
NON-INJURY IN THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, WORDS AND ACTIONS
PLEASE BLESS ME WITH UNDERSTANDING, PATIENCE, TOLERANCE, MERCY,
COMPASSION AND INNER FORGIVENESS
THANKING YOU IN FULL FAITH.
Repeat the above affirmation for 7 times every day for two months.
UNLEASH THE POWER OF BLESSING
Blessing is the single strongest tool to generate good karma for yourself. You receive 10 times of what you give. So if you bless the world and everyone around you with love, hope and joy, the same will come back to you manifold. This affirmation to bless the world and your relations in specific is ‘The Prayer of St Francis’ and is also used during the ‘Meditations On The Twin Hearts’. It is a very powerful prayer to sow the seeds of peace and harmony in one’s life.
LORD MAKE ME
AN INSTRUMENT OF YOUR PEACE
WHERE THERE IS HATRED,
LET ME SOW LOVE;
WHERE THERE IS INJURY, PARDON;
WHERE THERE IS DOUBT, FAITH;
WHERE THERE IS DESPAIR, HOPE;
WHERE THERE IS DARKNESS, LIGHT;
AND WHERE THERE IS SADNESS, JOY.
One may practice the above affirmation for as long they wish to be happy in their life and invoke positivity in their relationships.
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