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All You Need Is Love – The Art of Mindful Parenting by Shelja Sen – #AtoZChallenge Day 13

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Mindful Parenting

Book Blurb – All You Need Is Love – The Art of Mindful Parenting by Shelja Sen

I accept and love you the way you are. You are unique, you are different and you are you. I will not compare you with others, I will not constantly keep expecting and demanding what you might not be able to do or give. As parents, we foist our dreams and aspirations on our children, push them to be more than we could ever be. But do we have the courage and honesty to look within and ask what drives our parenting – our own needs or those of our children?

More crucially, are we able to accept them and respect them for who they are? Child & adolescent psychologist and family therapist Shelja Sen formulates five anchors of parenting to help you connect with the immense wisdom that is already present in you: Connect (create the foundation of parenting); Coach (build the necessary skills in children through an understanding of their unique wiring and temperament); Care (nurture ourselves for a more wholesome life); Community (build caring ecosystems for children to thrive in) and Commit (sustain the courage and compassion). Groundbreaking, essential reading.

Book Review – All You Need Is Love – The Art of Mindful Parenting by Shelja Sen

Every promise that the book blurb asks you to make to your child has been elaborated upon with research based evidence or with logically inferential examples. Every story/example of parental behavior vis-a-viz child behavior is eye-opening. Reading this book brings so much clarity to the fuzz around parenting psychology.

The effect of this book has been such that everytime I lose my calm around my kids, or am about to lose it, I am reminded about the various arguments that the author presents to explain why losing ones mind over child behavior isn’t the best thing to do.

I have read about the Transactional theory of Parent, Adult and Child roles earlier in a different professional context. But the same theory and the three roles when explained in context of parenting scenarios take an altogether different meaning. It’s so easy to understand,  a rational parent role against a critical parent role and how it will affect a normal child behavior against a rebel child behavior. I have to confess I often find myself oscillating between an adult role and a nagging parent role. Yes, this book is going to help me move towards a rational parent role.

The above theory is just one of the many analogies that the author draws to explain how by being mindful and conscious of our actions, words and thoughts we can actually improve our relationship with our kids. The underlying thought here is, that all of us aspire to have a healthy relationship with our kids, but we are not conscious enough to direct our thoughts and actions in the same direction.

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11 Comments

Vartika Gakhar April 15, 2019 at 12:28 am

What a coincidence, I just started this book today. Hope it helps me become calmer and create a better relationship with my kiddos.

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Sonia Chatterjee April 15, 2019 at 1:01 am

I have read this book, based on the recommendation of a friend. I am not much into parenting books because I feel that each parents knows what’s best for their child. But this book was quite unique in its approach. The background of the author adds authtencity to her writing.

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Operation Awesome April 15, 2019 at 2:21 am

I’m not a parent, but my partner has some very young cousins. I wonder if reading a book like this might help me be a better adult around them.

Operation Awesome. Our A to Z 2019 theme is the writing journey.

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Shubhra Rastogi April 15, 2019 at 8:25 am

This book has been sitting in my cart for a month now. I guess I shall take the next plunge soon. It is important that we as parents should not try to live our aspirations and dreams through our kids. They are a separate identity with different likes and dislikes. Thanks for the review.

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Deepa April 15, 2019 at 10:46 am

I am surely ordering this book soon. Being a rational parent is not easy but no harm trying. Thanks for the recommendation.

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Suhasini April 15, 2019 at 11:55 am

I am yet to order this book, will order soon. Heard already some good reviews about it earlier too

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Mayuri Nidigallu April 15, 2019 at 12:15 pm

I am glad this book is helping you, Anupriya. I will be sharing your review with my parent friends and introduce the book to them too.

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Priyanka Nair April 15, 2019 at 12:18 pm

When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment, this book looks quite interesting with its approach.

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Surbhi Prapanna April 15, 2019 at 2:06 pm

Personally, I am a firm believer of a mindful approach to life. and I am glad that the author had incorporated this idea into parenting as well. would love to read this..thanks a lot to you for sharing such great books with this series. I am sure it will help a lot to parents and they will learn art of parenting in an easy manner.

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vidhya thakkar April 15, 2019 at 5:20 pm

Woow this is another interesting book. recommended to my sister!

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Shilpa Garg April 16, 2019 at 7:22 pm

I would love to read this book. I have read about Transactional theory but would like to know it in terms of parenting too. Mindful parenting is getting popular these days and it does wonders for the child as well as the parent. I am definitely grabbing this book. Thanks for the recommendation, Anupriya!!

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