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How Your Personality Makes or Breaks Your Child by Dr. Chayanika Singh – #AtoZChallenge Day 16

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Chayanika Singh

Book Blurb – How Your Personality Makes or Breaks Your Child by Dr. Chayanika Singh

There are various factors both positive and negative which exert influence over a child’s behavior. We, as parents, make a lot of mistakes in the way we rear our children and some of these mistakes are unavoidable. Our innocence or ignorance may turn a child with an innocent mind into a difficult child!

We need to identify the repercussions of our own problems on our children, and look for ways to overcome them. If not, then we run the risk of our children going astray.

The objective of the book is not to instill any fear in parents or would-be parents. The author’s aim is in the direction of imparting discipline to parents and also to shed light on the problems and issues of parents.

This book is an opportunity to introspect, because everyone has unique problems, and has to manage their own behavior and consequently their children accordingly. The book serves as a mirror through which you can view yourself truly and clearly. It is full of tips on how to manage ourselves, small children and adolescents too!

Book Review – How Your Personality Makes or Breaks Your Child by Dr. Chayanika Singh

Have been worrying over your kid(s)’ behavioral patterns and wondering that despite you providing the best of facilities to them, why they are not listening to you? Well, here’s a book that will tell you that the problem really might not be with the kids. The real problem may be lying somewhere in the crevices of your sub-conscience where the experiences of your childhood with your parents lay.

This is not a parenting book for the light hearted or those who are looking for some sugar coated parenting advise on how to tackle your kids. This book is like those mirrors that show you the reality plain and stark in your face.

As per Dr. Chayanika Singh who has worked with parents and children for a long time and has a large repository of cases to refer in order to make her point. And her point is that we as parents while handling our kids more often than not get influenced by our own experiences as kids.

We have read and heard numerous times that we must not make our kids live for our dreams and aspirations. Similarly, the author emphasizes on the fact that we have to take utmost care that our fears, insecurities and agitations that we have inherited from our parents must not have a cascading affect our kids upbringing. Or else we might be risking creation of another generation of personalities laced with the same set of fears, insecurities and agitations. Only this time, they will be many-many times more severe.

This book by Dr. Chayanika Singh is an eye-opener in the true sense for parents who are receptive enough to understand the message the author is trying to pass on through numerous real case studies.  Along with the reality checks and food for thought the book also provides anecdotes and a simple to-do list to get on track with your kids.

Chayanika Singh

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Namratha April 18, 2019 at 12:34 am

The most difficult part is realising a lot of how our children react to situations and how they grow up depends directly on our behaviour and our actions than just what we tell them. I think I will keep this book for a later time.

Your series makes me want to drop everything and read all the 26 books for the simple reason that our highest priority as parents is and always will be our children and it would be great to equip ourselves to do the job better, something like doing a degree on parenting!

Mansi April 18, 2019 at 7:46 am

Thanks for sharing about this Anupriya. I am really in need of this. I often wonder where I am going wrong despite giving nothing but the best..( I guess it’s where the problem lies.)

Noor Anand Chawla April 18, 2019 at 11:10 am

That’s quite interesting. I never made the connection between my upbringing and my child’s personality, but it seems entirely possible. Adding it to my TBR list.

Sonia Chatterjee April 18, 2019 at 12:03 pm

This is really interesting and a fresh perspective. Often we don’t realize that put kids emulate our own behavior and that’s influenced by our upbringing. I really want to read this book.

Surbhi Prapanna April 18, 2019 at 1:59 pm

Of course, as a parent, we want to make our child an ideal personality and want to inoculate all possible positive personality traits but practically it did not happen and unconsciously kids learn the way how we behave and we react to a situation? I would love to read expert opinion on this. seems like an excellent book, thanks for sharing about it. excellent series with so helpful for parents.

Deepa April 18, 2019 at 3:34 pm

I am getting to know about so many interesting book through your series. I didn’t know about this one too. Thanks for the reference.

Abhijit April 18, 2019 at 4:12 pm

I think parents influence a Childs behaviour at the level of genetics as well as at the level of nurture. It is quite possible that the child sees his parents to be regular, efficient, organised, he/she tries to emulate the pattern. At the same time, if the parents have an inherent ability to write or sing, or play sports, child may inherit those also. But there is a possibility that a brilliant scientists son may be a mediocre person. Look at Gandhi ji’s grandsons all are not like Gandhi ji.

kushal April 18, 2019 at 10:46 pm

Self Realisation & behavior correction are great tools for self-improvement. However, sometimes an outside perspective is really helpful in realizing what is it that is not working right. Looks like this book talks some real straight things. Nice to know about so many good books Anupriya…

Vartika Gakhar April 19, 2019 at 1:01 am

Looks like a good read for all the parents. My TBR is increasing after reading your reviews 🙂

Suhasini April 22, 2019 at 11:32 am

This is another new book you have introduced. I am planning to read it now


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