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DON’T RAISE YOUR CHILDREN, RAISE YOURSELF by Dr. Swati Lodha – #AtoZChallenge Day 18

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Swati Lodha

Book Blurb –


How often do you feel inadequate and helpless as a parent when you are not sure about your actions as parents?

Don’t you wish there was an “owners manual” for parents that would give you the insights, the knowledge, the skills and the inspiration to be the best parent you can be?

The wisdom to set up your child for success in life?

We live in an option-rich world filled with a myriad of distractions such as technology, social media, demands at work, aging parents and it is challenging to be an effective parent in todays’ world.

We prepare for every test, every interview, however, don’t we need to prepare as a parent – a role that we play for the longest time in our lives?

This book is unique as it offers inspiration based on Indian Mythology for parents. Read the interesting dreams and learn the parenting philosophy flowing out of it. Each dream will open a new understanding of parenting for you to use in your daily life.

About the Author

Dr. Swati Lodha, the author, has 18 years’ experience as a life transformation coach. Additionally, she has mentored thousands of children, adolescents and youth as well as professionals – parents through her organization SWASH founded in Rajasthan, India. Doubling up as Director of a B-School for a decade, she has been actively involved with young future managers and leaders. By interacting with these students, Dr. Swati Lodha has learned what shapes children up – their upbringing, their social interactions and impact of technology in their lives.

Most importantly, the author’s 15-year old daughter has given her the first hand experience of being a Parent and taken her through the daily dose of dilemmas and dreams as a Parent.

In the past 5 years, Dr. Swati Lodha has interacted with more than 500 parents to understand their views, beliefs and action plan with regard to Parenting.

In her debut parenting book, Don’t Raise Your Children, Raise Yourself, Dr. Swati Lodha shares with you her deep knowledge, wisdom and hands-on experiences she has gathered over the years.

The ultimate goal of this book is to empower you to raise happy kids loved by themselves, confident kids respected by the world, responsible kids trusted by family, community and the world. Also, it will guide you to raise Parents who are patient, balanced and disciplined.


I came across Dr. Swati Lodha recently through the online launch of her latest book ’54 reasons why parents suck’. Frankly I was more intrigued by the title of the book and decided to research the authors previous work. And thus came to read ‘Dont raise your kids, raise yourself’

The one unique feature of this book is the author’s reference to stories from Indian mythological. More so, it creates a phase wise analogy with the 27 days of moon cycle  . And then the narrative is further categorised into sections about 1) Qualities that a parent should seek within themselves to become a successful parent, 2) Phase two focuses on the development stages of a child and how their behaviour is a function of their age.3) The third phase is an elaboration of how the trio of genetics, external influence and parents contribute to the making of a personality 4) it even analysis various parenting styles to understand how each type fits into a family.

The book ‘Don’t Raise Your Children, Raise Yourself’ just does not talk about the prevailing problems, but also prescribes relevant solutions in the form of modifications to parental behavioral and strategies. It then goes on to lay out 25principles for kids to emulate and closes on a note saying that if we as parents are able to imbibe in our kids, we can be assured that we have done our job right. Our kids will grow up as responsible, confident and happy adults.

I strongly recommend this book for all young and midlifer parents, who wish to rediscover the art of parenting and are willing to reinvent the cycle altogether. With the added masala of mythology, ‘ Don’t Raise Your Children, Raise Yourself ‘ makes for an engaging read.

Swati Lodha

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Shalini April 20, 2019 at 12:48 am

Seems like a well-researched, insightful read! Will recommend to my friends who are parents.

Meena April 20, 2019 at 6:24 am

Nice recommendation. I will try and read this one. Thanks Anupriya!

Sonia Chatterjee April 20, 2019 at 9:12 am

Dr. Swati had approached me to a review of her book. I had told her that I’m going to wait for a few more years before reading it and now after your review, I’m glad that I took that stand. It really seems like a great book written for teenagers with both the perspectives of the parent and kid well expressed.

vidhya thakkar April 20, 2019 at 11:07 am

It seems like an interesting book

Mansi Sharma Mittal April 20, 2019 at 1:38 pm

Yet again a great recommendation by you Anupriya. I swear this morning only I was asking my husband if I can have a manual on how to raise kids. For sure I am going to read this

Abhijit April 20, 2019 at 3:37 pm

The name of the book itself is so unique. Yes parenting is a tough job. Parents need to be much more than simple providers. A successful parent raises a good human being, everything else falls into place then. A happy child excels in many things or in something. At least he/she does not become a burden to the society. Instead, we raise a successful professional and a bad human. Problems faced by society are for everyone to see.

Priyanka Nair April 20, 2019 at 4:04 pm

I had read about it a lot and then I am halfway through it and hence I can echo with each and every word of yours, I do try to inculcate some of them in my parenting style as my kiddo is just five, trust me it works if we dwell into conscious parenting, It becomes really difficult in some situations but still we can at least try.

Harjeet Kaur April 20, 2019 at 9:48 pm

New age parents do need some classes to prepare themselves.

Trapti April 20, 2019 at 10:17 pm

Love this beautiful thought: Don’t raise your children, raise yourself.

kushal April 20, 2019 at 10:24 pm

Loved the name of the book Anupriya… n it’s so true… there is a lot we can learn from kids & raise ourselves to the next step of being a better human. The way they are naturally wired to smile, think positive, trust completely and not be afraid… I am definitely reading this one..

Shilpa Garg April 20, 2019 at 10:40 pm

The name of the book itself gives food for thought. While most books focus on how to deal with children’s issues, Swati’s book seems to tell us to modify our parenting strategies and behavior, which is so apt and right! Will check out Don’t Raise Your Children, Raise Yourself. Thanks for your recommendation, Anupriya!

Mann April 21, 2019 at 10:36 am

Yes such books are definitely needed. I when I became mom, I wondered why isn’t there a training how to behave once you are parents??

Noor Anand Chawla April 21, 2019 at 2:53 pm

Sunda like a book that I really need to read! Great review Anupriya.

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Vartika Gakhar April 23, 2019 at 7:15 pm

The catchy title of the book speaks a lot, itself. While there are many books that talk about how to deal with the tantrums or kids behavior, I like the different take here on raising and changing yourself instead of the children.

Suhasini April 24, 2019 at 3:14 pm

Title is very catchy and your review is also equally tempting


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