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My Aggression..My Guilt..My Confession

posted by Mommy Tincture September 22, 2017 9 Comments

A natural challenge for any parent is dealing with toddler tantrums. The sweet happy baby disappears into a demanding and irrational toddler. Sure they are the cutest in this phase, but they’re also very demanding.

So, when I set out to read some self-help books on how to tackle my aggression in reaction to tantrums thrown in by my 2-year-old son, I found very little information on the worldwide net. What I found instead were numerous articles and write-ups elaborating on how to manage aggressive toddler behavior.

I sighed at the futility of trying to manage his rash behavior when I cannot check my own knee-jerk reactions to his one naughty act here or a tantrum there.

One primary reason for my impatience while dealing with my son is that being a working mother, I always have a long To-Do list which impacts my willingness to be more patient. And over time, I have got into a habitual pattern where even if I don’t have anything urgent to do, my mind is always thinking about pending tasks and thus I am prone to knee-jerk reactions to his naughtiness.
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Moms Get Unplugged – Don’t be too harsh on yourself

posted by Mommy Tincture September 1, 2017 13 Comments

Ever since I decided to become a mother, I have seen umpteen messages, graphics and videos that recount experiences and overwhelming journeys of mothers across the globe. Now that I am a mother of two, I identify with most of these experiences yet I feel that these narratives are highly skewed towards creating a rosy picture of motherhood. Especially in India, where becoming a mother is still considered to as be-all and end-all of the life for a woman, I often wonder why many mothers don’t embark on the dark side of motherhood.

Yes, the dark side! For starters, there’s this lost sense of individual space along with this continual trigger that keeps them thinking about their kid even when they are away from their little one. Continue Reading

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Why I Need Nutrition Supplement For My Vegetarian Kids

posted by Mommy Tincture August 18, 2017 2 Comments

My elder son is an extremely picky eater. In last the 3 years after he stopped breastfeeding, I really do not remember a time when I have not been worried or bogged down because my son wasn’t eating enough. He was hardly eating, I was quite convinced that he was definitely falling short on significant nutrients that he requires in his initial years of growth. By the time he was 2 years old, I was contemplating various options on how I could supplement the nutrition that he was falling short of.

In the meanwhile, I met a cousin who had kids slightly older than my son and shared with her my concerns about his eating habits and how I need to start some supplements for him. I remember mentioning to her very categorically that how she was lucky that her kids were enthusiastic eaters and she did not have to worry about supplementing their nutritional requirements.  She took a deep sigh and told me that as vegetarians, we ran a high risk of losing out on various nutrients that vegetarian foods cannot provide adequately. Thus she too had to resort to health food drink for her kids. Her reply surprised me and I decided to take this up with my doc.

On my next visit to the family doctor I brought up the issue and following were my most significant points to take away from the discussion –

  1. A meal devoid of meat, fish and eggs is generally devoid of sufficient amount of nutrients like vitamin B12, vitamin D, calcium, Omega-3 etc.
  2. Though most of the above nutrients are available in milk and dairy products, they may not be sufficient to fulfill the needs of a healthy growth rate among children.
  3. Vegetarian or non-vegetarian picky eaters run a risk of hampered growth due to various deficiencies from an age as early as 2 years onwards.
  4. Nutrients such as DHA and Choline play a vital role in development of brain cells. Incidentally DHA is available in extremely limited vegetarian food items such as flax seeds, soy products etc. And introducing these foods to toddlers may be a little tricky especially in case of picky eaters.

Thus my family doctor’s safest bet to ensure that my kid got all the nutrients that he needed was to introduce him to a health drink that contained all the necessary nutrition to ensure healthy physical and brain development and at the same time was tasty enough to make it easy to include it in his daily diet.

I had been prescribed a mother’s health drink by Horlicks’ during my pregnancy. And as I recalled my pregnancy that was laced with food aversions, the health drink was a high point of my meal routine that I looked forward to. Thus I checked with my doc if Junior Horlicks’ was a good choice. Once he approved of the alternative, I began by mixing a small quantity of Junior Horlicks’ in my son’s milk, so as to acclimatize him with new taste. To my relief he took it positively, so within a week I was adding the prescribed quantity to his daily milk intake.

Within a couple of months,I could see some definite positive effects. Ability to engage himself in any activity with sustained level of interest was one of the most significant impacts. Also, earlier my little one used to be extremely fidgety and lacked interest in following instructions. His reactions to certain situations were sometimes very aggressive. But with time, he began to look more composed and confident about himself and displayed significant improvement in terms of following instructions at play-school.

Even if I discounted the behavioral irregularities to growth spurts and credited the subsequent settling down of the same to time, I felt very nice about a health drink in my kid’s otherwise stingy diet routine, because I knew that not only was it aiding in proper brain development, but was also a source of sufficient proteins to provide for a good physical growth and not to forget, its immuno-nutrients were actively working towards a stronger immune system.

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Teaching Your Kid – Good Touch Bad Touch

posted by Mommy Tincture April 15, 2017 2 Comments

Given the known history of child abuse I realized that when it comes to abuse, you have to be vigilant enough to not eliminate anyone as a prospect abuser. In today’s times kids come across so many people during their daily routine that you can never be sure about your kids safety. Though it is not advisable to turn into a maniac worrying about or suspecting every other person as a possible abuser, yet an effective way of dealing with this situation is to Continue Reading

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Parenting Is Not A Corporate Job

posted by Mommy Tincture April 7, 2017 1 Comment

As a corporate professional, one’s mind is attuned to think in terms of expectations, KRAs, deadlines, quality etc. as means to attaining success. This is likely to have a spillover in your personal life because every challenge becomes a matter of your honor and an opportunity to prove your capability. Because you are used to accepting professional challenges you take your parenting tasks equally seriously and embark upon completing them with similar vigor as you would do your professional tasks. Gradually, you realize you are exhausted and frustrated at the same time. You set certain expectations of yourself and your kid. When they are not met with, a sense of failure sets in. You feel that your efforts have not been acknowledged by your kid. You become even more desperate to get your kids to fall in line with your demands. Continue Reading

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Autism Makes A Child Different Not Disabled

posted by Mommy Tincture March 15, 2017 0 comments

Until recently, my exposure to autism was limited to Aamir Khan’s representation of the disorder in his movie “Taare Zameen Par”. A couple of weeks back when I was at my son’s activity class, I observed a fellow mother who had come to drop her son; along with her was a slightly elder boy whom she was constantly instructing and monitoring. One day I summoned courage to exchange greetings with her and inquired if her son was suffering from some special attention scenario. “He is Autistic” were her plain and simple words. I could see nothing in her words or her tone or expressions that invited any sympathy, Continue Reading

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Day Care Centers – Why Are They Unsafe And What Can We Do About It

posted by Mommy Tincture November 30, 2016 3 Comments

When I first saw the news about the assault on a 10 month old baby at a daycare in Navi Mumbai, my first reaction was that probably I was right in deciding to give-up my job to take care of my kids. Because the best place where our kids will be safe is ‘home’. But that was a choice that I made; I am one individual, my priorities and prerogatives in life could be / are different from other individuals. There are several mothers who for reasons best understood by them and their partners continue working. Sending their child to a Day Care facility is not an easy decision in the first place. Continue Reading

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Free Will Of My Little Devil

posted by Mommy Tincture February 17, 2016 0 comments

One fine day last week Nick started throwing tantrums that he didn’t want to go the school. I thought may be he is finding going to school very taxing after the 3-day break that he had to take due to his viral fever. But I observed that since then every morning he has been extremely reluctant about going to school and would start crying the moment I would drop him off at the school gate.

This behavior of his got me worrying as he has been going to Montessori for almost 10 months now, but never did I find him unenthusiastic about going to school. Rather all this while he has been be extremely excited at the prospect of meeting his friends and the outdoor play time at school.
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Will My Child Grow Up To Be What He Should Grow Up To Be?

posted by Mommy Tincture January 8, 2016 0 comments

Oh No! Please do not judge me as a mother who has already set the goals for her son to grow up to be a doctor, or an engineer or even a dancer or musician for that matter. At the same time neither am I sure nor do I commit to be that liberal mother who might just take it in my stride when Nik might grow up and come up to me saying, “Mom! I want to be a communist activist! I will fight against the capitalist system that is ruining our country!”

Then, the question that the title of this blog holds bold is, what is it that I am really scared of? Before I answer my own question, let me take you through a small background of why this question has been troubling me for a couple of days.
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