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5 Things That No One Ever Told You About Becoming New Parents

posted by Anupriya October 29, 2017 14 Comments

Motherhood is associated with all the things ecstatic that are supposed to make you feel blessed. But no one talks about the darker side of being a good mother. Yes! Believe me. There is this dark dimension to being a mother which every mother suffers through all alone because talking about it without the fear of being judged is almost impossible.

This dark reality of motherhood that I talk about is beyond the pain of breastfeeding, nappy changes and sleepless nights watching the child. These are things that have a lasting impact psychologically and “normal” becomes a thing of the past.
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5 Life Lessons to Learn from the movie ‘Chef’ – not a #MovieReview

posted by Anupriya October 14, 2017 14 Comments

The latest bollywood release ‘Chef’ starring Saif Ali Khan is the story of a man’s love for food and his son. Roshan K the protagonist of the story is a chef in New York who having arose from the ‘Gullies’ of Chandni Chowk in New Delhi India and achieved the summit of success as a Chef is on a path downhill in his professional as well as personal life. This man in his pursuit of success and fame gets into a vicious circle and drifts apart from his life partner. He claims to love his son most in the world even when he feels tied down by the burdens of his profession, financial obligations etc and not able to spare enough time for him. Continue Reading

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#InternationalGirlChildDay – Love your Girls! But …

posted by Anupriya October 11, 2017 14 Comments

A couple of days back I happened to meet an acquaintance of my mother’s who did not look in the best of her spirits. When I cautiously prodded her on why she looked so somber as if on cue she broke down. Her MBA daughter had married the guy of her choice and moved to HongKong with him. And now after 2 years of a seemingly happy marriage, she had got herself transferred to India and was living alone in another metro. From the sound of what my aunt was saying, it looked like her daughter was unwilling to go back. I told her to be more compassionate of her daughter and figure out if there were instances of physical or mental abuse.

This aunt of mine began to sob inconsolably by now, “No beta! All of it is our fault. Apeksha is our only daughter and we brought her up like she was our son. I can see my daughter’s fallacies now. She is incapable of any kind of compromise. She did not learn how to cook. In India, she could have managed with a maid. But in a foreign land… Also, she has not been able to come to terms with the idea of a marriage where two people have to collaborate and sometimes compromise. I wonder if we went too far in making her independent and forgot to instill some basic virtues for a happy life.” Continue Reading

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Positive Parenting with Meditation (the spiritual route to being positive)

posted by Anupriya September 16, 2017 15 Comments

As a mother, I often feel that a lot of what I say, do or react to my children is impacted by my state of mind, my emotions and also my surroundings.  Have you ever felt that the optimism or pessimism in your surroundings gets on to you and you, in turn, behave in a similar fashion?

As parents, we know that children’s actions are not motivated by wrong intentions. They are just instinctive. They are either naïve and don’t understand the implications of their words or actions; or they have no knowledge of the territory they are traversing into. In any case, if you are a parent who reacts too easily or worries too much, I am sure you feel the need for a magical wand to help you keep calm. Continue Reading

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Parenting in the 90s

posted by Anupriya September 9, 2017 37 Comments

When I look back at my childhood and of those around me, I see an entire generation of parents who have given up everything for the sake of their kids. Though parenting in every age and time has its challenges accrued to the ecosystem, I feel that the generation of our parents i.e. the 90s, comprised of a large section of middle-class families where fathers were the prime earners and mothers the homemakers. This is the generation of parents who lost themselves to a constant call of responsibility Continue Reading

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Moms Get Unplugged – Don’t be too harsh on yourself

posted by Anupriya September 1, 2017 13 Comments

Ever since I decided to become a mother, I have seen umpteen messages, graphics and videos that recount experiences and overwhelming journeys of mothers across the globe. Now that I am a mother of two, I identify with most of these experiences yet I feel that these narratives are highly skewed towards creating a rosy picture of motherhood. Especially in India, where becoming a mother is still considered to as be-all and end-all of the life for a woman, I often wonder why many mothers don’t embark on the dark side of motherhood.

Yes, the dark side! For starters, there’s this lost sense of individual space along with this continual trigger that keeps them thinking about their kid even when they are away from their little one. Continue Reading

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Why I Need Nutrition Supplement For My Vegetarian Kids

posted by Anupriya August 18, 2017 2 Comments

My elder son is an extremely picky eater. In last the 3 years after he stopped breastfeeding, I really do not remember a time when I have not been worried or bogged down because my son wasn’t eating enough. He was hardly eating, I was quite convinced that he was definitely falling short on significant nutrients that he requires in his initial years of growth. By the time he was 2 years old, I was contemplating various options on how I could supplement the nutrition that he was falling short of.

In the meanwhile, I met a cousin who had kids slightly older than my son and shared with her my concerns about his eating habits and how I need to start some supplements for him. I remember mentioning to her very categorically that how she was lucky that her kids were enthusiastic eaters and she did not have to worry about supplementing their nutritional requirements.  She took a deep sigh and told me that as vegetarians, we ran a high risk of losing out on various nutrients that vegetarian foods cannot provide adequately. Thus she too had to resort to health food drink for her kids. Her reply surprised me and I decided to take this up with my doc.

On my next visit to the family doctor I brought up the issue and following were my most significant points to take away from the discussion –

  1. A meal devoid of meat, fish and eggs is generally devoid of sufficient amount of nutrients like vitamin B12, vitamin D, calcium, Omega-3 etc.
  2. Though most of the above nutrients are available in milk and dairy products, they may not be sufficient to fulfill the needs of a healthy growth rate among children.
  3. Vegetarian or non-vegetarian picky eaters run a risk of hampered growth due to various deficiencies from an age as early as 2 years onwards.
  4. Nutrients such as DHA and Choline play a vital role in development of brain cells. Incidentally DHA is available in extremely limited vegetarian food items such as flax seeds, soy products etc. And introducing these foods to toddlers may be a little tricky especially in case of picky eaters.

Thus my family doctor’s safest bet to ensure that my kid got all the nutrients that he needed was to introduce him to a health drink that contained all the necessary nutrition to ensure healthy physical and brain development and at the same time was tasty enough to make it easy to include it in his daily diet.

I had been prescribed a mother’s health drink by Horlicks’ during my pregnancy. And as I recalled my pregnancy that was laced with food aversions, the health drink was a high point of my meal routine that I looked forward to. Thus I checked with my doc if Junior Horlicks’ was a good choice. Once he approved of the alternative, I began by mixing a small quantity of Junior Horlicks’ in my son’s milk, so as to acclimatize him with new taste. To my relief he took it positively, so within a week I was adding the prescribed quantity to his daily milk intake.

Within a couple of months,I could see some definite positive effects. Ability to engage himself in any activity with sustained level of interest was one of the most significant impacts. Also, earlier my little one used to be extremely fidgety and lacked interest in following instructions. His reactions to certain situations were sometimes very aggressive. But with time, he began to look more composed and confident about himself and displayed significant improvement in terms of following instructions at play-school.

Even if I discounted the behavioral irregularities to growth spurts and credited the subsequent settling down of the same to time, I felt very nice about a health drink in my kid’s otherwise stingy diet routine, because I knew that not only was it aiding in proper brain development, but was also a source of sufficient proteins to provide for a good physical growth and not to forget, its immuno-nutrients were actively working towards a stronger immune system.

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A Second Chance At Motherhood – Things I Am Doing Differently

posted by MommyTincture July 6, 2017 6 Comments

Mostly every mother has this clear picture in her mind about how she wants to bring up her children. Yet, in the rush of events of becoming a first-time mom, a lot remains fogged due to lack of experience.
For me, the birth of my first child was a milestone I managed to meet before I turned 30. Actually, I was not quite ready for a child, yet we as a couple decided to have one because I also firmly believed that if I grew any older, it would be impossible for me to have the patience to raise any kids.

A lot went haywire and in retrospect, I feel that my little Nik and dear husband were at the receiving end most of the times. I was like, if I am going to have a kid, I rather raise him to be that perfect kid who every mother would envy. (I am laughing at my naivety of having such a goal.) Continue Reading

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Learning Alphabets Phonics Way – Everything You Need To Know

posted by Anupriya June 6, 2017 0 comments

Precisely 4 years ago, I was in a conversation with my cousin whose daughter had begun school recently. I happened to ask her if my niece had started learning the alphabets. To which my cousin responded that she was baffled by what they were doing at school with the alphabets. Further discussion revealed that they weren’t being taught Alphabets the traditional way in the normal ABCD… order. This is how we learnt alphabets and have seen generations learning the same. But the new order of learning alphabets is different. It is based on ease of their sound and identification of letters. Continue Reading